Female ejaculation is one of the most talked-about — and least understood — aspects of sexual pleasure. Whether you've experienced it yourself, heard about it from a partner, or simply stumbled across the topic online, chances are you have questions. Let's clear things up.
Two Types of Female Ejaculation
There are two types of female ejaculation, and people often use the term interchangeably, which can lead to confusion.
In the first type, a small amount of milky fluid is ejected from the urethra. This isn't going to leave with any amount of force, and you might even miss it because it's such a small amount. This fluid comes from the Skene's glands, which are located near a woman's urethra and swell when she becomes aroused.
The other type is more dramatic and closer to what we see in porn — but there are a few key differences between actual female ejaculation and its on-screen portrayal. Studies have found that this larger volume of liquid is stored in the bladder and contains a small amount of urea, similar to urine. However, it may not be processed by the kidneys and differs from urine in other ways. For example, you can go to the bathroom before sex or masturbating and still be able to ejaculate!
While researchers continue to explore the science, there's no reason why you can't experiment yourself. Ejaculation usually occurs through G-spot stimulation — and contrary to popular belief, it doesn't always accompany an orgasm, although the two often go hand in hand.
Finding the G-Spot
The G-spot is located on the front wall of the vagina behind the pubic bone. It's actually part of the clitoral network — just accessible via the vaginal wall. Using your fingers, search for a dip or valley with a ridged or bumpy texture. It's much easier to find when already aroused, so foreplay is your best friend here.
Gels can also help the G-spot swell and become easier to locate. Although fingers work well, the right sex toy can make the whole process significantly easier. Look for something with a contoured or curved shaft and a bulbous head — these shapes are specifically designed to target the G-spot with precision. Browse our G-spot vibrators collection to find the perfect match.
A partner's penis may not always be the right shape or angle — but experimenting with different positions can absolutely help. For ideas on finding the right angle, check out our blog Nail the 69 Position Like a Pro — it's a great reminder that position and angle make all the difference.
Using Sex Toys to Squirt
The right toy can be the difference between almost getting there and actually ejaculating. Here are some of the best types to try:
- Curved G-spot wands — rigid enough to apply firm pressure exactly where you need it
- Rechargeable G-spot vibrators — add vibration to the pressure for an extra layer of stimulation
- Rabbit vibrators — stimulate the G-spot internally while the external arm works the clitoris simultaneously
- Thick, bulbous dildos — sometimes sitting against the G-spot without thrusting is all it takes
For many people, intense thrusting is what triggers ejaculation. Others prefer a gentler "milking" motion dragging the toy slowly across the G-spot. Not everyone's G-spot responds to vibration either — so it's worth experimenting to find what works for your body. Browse our full dildos collection and vibrators collection for options.
If you're new to internal toys and not sure where to start, our blog How to Choose the Perfect Dong is a helpful read before you shop.
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Tips for Actually Getting There
You'll know ejaculation is imminent when you feel that familiar "need to pee" sensation. Remember — ejaculate is not the same as urine, even if it can feel that way. Don't hold back out of embarrassment. If you're worried about mess, lay a towel underneath you beforehand or invest in a waterproof blanket for peace of mind.
Relaxing your pelvic floor muscles is essential — tensing up will prevent ejaculation and the fluid will simply exit your body the next time you urinate. Bear down, as you would when going to the bathroom, to help the ejaculate flow more freely and forcefully.
It also helps to remove the toy or body part at the moment of ejaculation — anything inserted can block the urethra and make it harder for fluid to escape.
And if you don't get there right away? Don't worry. Practice makes perfect — and this is definitely the kind of practice worth enjoying. Our blog Ladies: 3 Ways to Make Your Orgasms Better has some additional tips that pair perfectly with everything covered here.
Have questions about female ejaculation, the G-spot, or finding the right toy? Contact us — we're always happy to help. And browse our full range at Romantix.com.
