Would you like your woman to believe you have a superpower for oral? Want to make her orgasm with just your tongue? The majority of women cannot reach orgasm through intercourse alone — they need foreplay, they need to feel the tension build, to feel sexy, and to feel genuinely desired. Here are some tips to help you do just that.
And if you want to go even deeper on the subject of female pleasure, our blog Ladies: 3 Ways to Make Your Orgasms Better is a great companion read — understanding what she enjoys makes everything in this guide land even better.
Preparation
Make her comfortable. Seriously. Tell her to get comfortable and show her you are not in a rush. You want her to relax every muscle and be fully in her body. Lightly caress, kiss, and massage her to relax her and heighten her arousal before you even get started. Don't forget to make sure you're comfortable too — no one performs well with cramps or a numb limb. And show her your excitement. She'll love knowing this isn't a chore for you — your enthusiasm is part of the foreplay.
Setting the mood beforehand makes a real difference. Our blog Tips on Seducing Without Using Words covers how to build anticipation before you even get into the bedroom — and anticipation is everything when it comes to her orgasm.
Building Tension
Use your tongue slowly to build her sexual tension. Licking her inner thigh, kissing her clit, and long slow licks along her slit are the building blocks of her orgasm. Think of foreplay like a composer building to a crescendo — slow at first, gradually increasing speed and intensity until you reach the peak together. Don't underestimate your hands either. Caressing her skin, lightly scratching with your nails, or squeezing her are all fantastic ways to layer sensation on top of what your tongue is already doing.
Understanding erogenous zones beyond the obvious ones can take this to a completely different level. Our blog Zero in on Erogenous Zones to Unleash More Pleasure During Sex is a must-read alongside this one.
Listen, Watch and Explore
If you listen and watch your partner while giving her oral, you will see exactly what she likes. Whether she responds to a side-to-side motion on her clit, her labia being licked a certain way, or her clit being sucked — she will show you through her reactions. Every woman is different, which means the techniques that work will vary. Your job is to explore, pay attention, and find the moves that make her squirm under your tongue.
Communication makes all of this infinitely easier. If you haven't already, read our blog on Communicating Sexual Fantasies — the same principles of open, honest dialogue apply directly to telling each other what feels good in the moment.
Don't Forget Touch
Using your fingers is not just permitted — it's encouraged. Rub her slowly as you bring her closer to orgasm with your tongue. Adding a finger or thumb inside her and moving slowly in and out provides a completely different sensation that layers beautifully with what your mouth is doing. The combination of internal pressure and external stimulation is one of the most reliably effective ways to bring her to climax.
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Putting It All Together
There are so many different ways to give great oral — but what it all comes down to is your patience, your genuine desire to make her feel amazing, and the woman herself. Each of these is a huge factor in bringing her to climax. No two experiences will be exactly the same, and that's what makes it worth mastering.
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